How do you trust those around you?

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Cast your vote and voice your opinion.

All successful relationships are based on the fundamental building block of trust. Its existence is empowering and allows the relationship and those in it to grow, stretch their capabilities and enjoy positive energy. Equally, the lack of trust creates an environment which is disempowering and a whole lot of negativity.

In the corporate world, teams can fly or fall flat on their face depending on the trust quotient that exists. In the work that we have done with over a hundred group of leaders and managers in the last few years, we have observed that there seem to be two opposing ‘default’ modes with which different individuals start any relationship. And there seem to be an equal number of arguments supporting each default mode. What we have also observed that the issue is discussed and people get to understand each others default mode, it helps to remove a lot of ‘mistrust’ and ‘dislike’.

What is your default mode? Do you start any relationship with the belief that the other person deserves to be trusted untill otherwise proved

Do you believe that trust has to earned by demonstrating trustworthiness and cannot just be given?

Cast your vote and give us your opinion on this – it will help all of us understand each other better.

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6 responses to “How do you trust those around you?”

September 15, 2010

Goutam Roy

If you want others should observe you before they trust you than do so

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September 15, 2010

Subbu

I have voted for the first one,i.e., begin any relationship by trusting others. I noticed that majority of the votes are for this bloc.

If this were the case, relationships, workplace and the world around us would be a much better place. This made me wonder whether the first option for which most of us voted is the ‘desired’ option whereas in ‘practice’ we put the second option to use!

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September 15, 2010

Rajesh Ramaswamy

Always trust your fellow man, but keep your pwder dry!!!
While that saying is def true, i believe in belief…in making a leap of faith, and setting the quotient, as it were.
What also holds true is that there are two kinds of trust: I trust the person as a person, and I trust the person as a professional. It’d be great if the two met, but they don’t have to. The question is, where do we draw that line?

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September 15, 2010

Navin Harish

It is not black and white. While we don’t like to admit we all are judgmental and we judge people and we form an opinion about people in the first 30 seconds. That opinion defines how we start with a relationship. Sometimes I start a relationship with a trust and sometimes I wait for the other person to earn trust.
That being said, I am not right every time. Some relationships have started where I was not confident of the other person of winning by trust but they have proved me wrong.

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August 7, 2016

Indranil Chakravorty

I have voted the 1st one and I do practice the same. In many occasions I have faced bitter consequences, but still I practice it. I often ask the question to myself and try to console that from next time I will test trustworthiness of the person and then decide how much should I mingle with that person. But my personality trait is just the opposite, I begin any relationship by trusting the other untill proved otherwise…………

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1. August 8, 2016
  
  Sanjeev Roy
  
  @Indranil – the choice is being suspicious of everyone and not enjoying it or facing some consequences.What makes you happier, overall?
  
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